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Monday, July 28, 2014

8 Ways To Increase Your Mental Strength


It’s easy to get down on yourself and let the inner critic run free when things aren’t going well, but that isn’t going to help you.

Instead, fight the urge to criticize and ask yourself if you can make a commitment that you will only bring forth positive energy for the remainder of the match. I’ve found that when you prioritize eliminating all negative thoughts, your focus automatically shifts to the positive ones, and that in turn makes you more likely to enjoy and excel in the big moment.

II. Focus Only On What You Control

Yes, we play to win, that’s why we keep score. But spending time thinking about the potential outcome just diverts your focus and fills your head with unimportant, distracting thoughts.

The remedy is to be present in the moment and let nature take its course. Focus only on the things you actually control: your approach and your attitude.

III. Keep Your Emotional Level Steady

Some of us get more easily up and down that others. The more up and down you get, the more likely you are going to get over-excited or overwhelmed by the situation, and that puts you in a bad spot to win the big points consistently.

The key is to distance yourself from the game just enough so that you’re not swept away with the emotional tides. Don’t only focus on not getting down – also make sure you don’t get too high either, because that disrupts your focus also. Visualize remaining calm and composed in even the biggest situations. Act like you’ve been in those situations a hundred times, and eventually you’ll feel like it too.

IV. Enjoy The Big Moments

This is probably my favorite technique because it takes a moment that is stressful and intimidating and turns it into a moment that’s fun and exciting – something you actually look forward to.

The next time you find yourself in a big moment in a game (e.g. a tiebreak in tennis), remind yourself how exciting and fun these big moments are compared to a casual game with nothing at stake. These are the moments you’ll remember and what you’ll all discuss after the games – enjoy them, embrace them, and feel them with every cell in your body.

V. A Prepared Mind is a More Confident Mind

It’s been said that self confidence is ‘your ability to influence the world around you’. What better way to do that than through practice?

When you know you’ve practiced a single shot a thousands of times, you have a lot more faith in being able to rely on your training in a big moment.

VI. Forget About How You Might Look

Sometimes we start thinking how bad we might appear to others if we lose this point – or how embarrassing it would be to blow a big lead. But the moment you start thinking from the outside in, you lose your focus and your ability to stay calm and composed.

Thinking from the outside in is toxic. You are not doing this to “look good” or win the admiration of onlookers, so put all thoughts about looking bad out of your mind and just focus on playing the game one point at a time. Win or loss – do it your way.

VII. Have a Short Memory

This is also one of my favorites. It’s so easy to get angry and criticize ourselves when we make a mistake, but all that usually does is turn one bad play into another.

If the previous point or play didn’t go your way, you need to forget it immediately and concentrate on the next one. Don’t let one bad play ruin the next one.

Just make a note and move on.

VIII. Don’t Expect Perfect Circumstances

It’s easy to say the conditions were poor, you had a little ailment or that nothing is going your way today. But these are all just excuses that tempt you down the road of surrender.

You only get the perfect circumstances so many times in life. Don’t dwell on what has gone against you. Don’t worry that the conditions favor your opponent. Ignore the pain you feel in your knee.

What you have is what you have. There will never be another chance to win this game.

Be like MacGyver and use everything that you have at your disposal to succeed right now.

Mental toughness is really just about approaching the game from the right perspective. The next time you step out onto the field, ignore the score, focus being in the moment and tell that little, criticizing and excuse-seeking voice in your head to shut the hell up. You’ll be glad you did.


By Joel Brown

Friday, July 11, 2014

Story of The 8 Monkeys

This is reportedly based on an actual experiment conducted in the U.K.

Story of The 8 Monkeys

(This is reportedly based on an actual experiment conducted in the U.K.)

Put eight monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room is a ladder, leading to a bunch of bananas hanging from a hook on the ceiling.

Each time a monkey tries to climb the ladder, all the monkeys are sprayed with ice water, which makes them miserable. Soon enough, whenever a monkey attempts to climb the ladder, all of the other monkeys, not wanting to be sprayed, set upon him and beat him up. Soon, none of the eight monkeys ever attempts to climb the ladder.

One of the original monkeys is then removed, and a new monkey is put in the room. Seeing the bananas and the ladder, he wonders why none of the other monkeys is doing the obvious. But undaunted, he immediately begins to climb the ladder.

All the other monkeys fall upon him and beat him silly. He has no idea why.

However, he no longer attempts to climb the ladder.

A second original monkey is removed and replaced. The newcomer again attempts to climb the ladder, but all the other monkeys hammer the crap out of him.

This includes the previous new monkey, who, grateful that he’s not on the receiving end this time, participates in the beating because all the other monkeys are doing it. However, he has no idea why he’s attacking the new monkey.

One by one, all the original monkeys are replaced. Eight new monkeys are now in the room. None of them has ever been sprayed by ice water. None of them attempts to climb the ladder. All of them will enthusiastically beat up any new monkey who tries, without having any idea why.

And that is how traditions, religions and systems get established and followed.

Think twice before following a tradition,religion or system blindly .. it would make more sense if you get your own understanding to it.


Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Learn From Them

Some of the much popular people in public service have done odd jobs, and some of them also had a tough beginning in life.

India’s Pride A.P.J. ABDUL KALAM (Former Indian Prez)
A.P.J. Abdul Kalam was born in a family where his father was a humble boat owner. His  father wasn't educated, but he wanted Kalam to study.Kalam would get up at 4 am, bathe and then go for his mathematics class. After his morning class, Kalam along with his cousin went around town distributing the newspaper. This was being done to support the family. As the town had no electricity, kerosene lamps were lit at his home between 7 pm and 9 pm. But because Kalam studied until 11 pm, so his mother would save some kerosene for him for later use.

SONU NIGAM (Playback Singer)
Sonu Nigam was born into a family of singers in New Delhi, but his parents hardly got the chance to sing in Bollywood. He initially wanted to be a scientist, but started singing in weddings or jagran with his parents for a mere 50 per show and later started getting 175. Later, he shifted to Mumbai with his father and met several music personalities. Finally, Usha Khanna gave him his fi rst break as playback singer. But the big break was by T-series owner the Late Gulshan Kumar.

RAIL SPLITTER & FLATBOAT PILOT Abraham Lincoln used to split logs and built fences in  his childhood, this earned him the nickname "Splitter." Later at 19, Lincoln became a flat boat pilot and moved between the rivers Mississippi to New Orleans in US.

Warren Buffett is the man who has been on the number one position of the world’s richest people list for years. Surprisingly, he has been earning right from his childhood. Interestingly, he was never out of cash, even in his young days. This was because he used to work at his grandfather's grocery store, as a grocery attendant, for which he was being paid.

Charlie Chaplin is the name people connect immediately with laugh, gags and humour. He made people laugh for decades without even uttering a single word. But reports say that Chaplin had a very sad childhood. His mother had a mental breakdown after his father’s demise and they did not even had a place to live. The humorous man often quoted “I love to walk in the rain because no one could see me crying”. Inspite of spending a sad childhood, he mastered in the art of making people laugh.

Ref: Shehla Faaiz

Monday, June 30, 2014

Study Hacks to Get You Through Finals

For most students, finals are that dreadful time of year that consummates the entire semester. One big test can make or break a GPA, and there is nothing that seems more stressful to a student. Surprisingly, many students still make some bad study choices, but with proper planning, you can be sure to set yourself up for success. Here are some scientifically proven study tips to help you make it through the roughest time of year.

Remember, mind over matter

Researchers have found that your outlook is almost as important as your actions. If you are able to put yourself in the right mindset, you are much more likely to succeed. This idea is very in line with the old saying, “Fake it until you make it.” Just try to think positively. You are clearly smart if you made it into BC.

Settle down in the perfect study spot…

But do not be afraid to mix it up from time to time. It has been shown that switching study spots helps to increase memory. You also get to avoid inducing illness from the greenness of Bapst or the yellowness of Lower. Keep in mind that some spots are better than others. Look for a brightly lit area, as bright lights have been proven to increase learning and alertness. Also avoid a place with distractions, such as loud noises and lots of movement. Avoid multitasking at all costs as well. Multitasking causes the brain to split attention between each task to work on multiple things simultaneously.

If you have a chance, get out and exercise

Exercise can be a super-efficient and beneficial study break. It improves brain function by getting even blood flow to the brain, maximizing alertness and information retention.

While you are studying, make connections

Do not just memorize facts off a sheet of paper. Put all of the information together to get a full picture. Even trying to associate your subject with emotions can be beneficial to retaining the information long-term. It has been shown that the stronger an emotion you can relate to your study material, the more likely you are to be able to recall it later.

Catch some Zzz’s

You have heard time and time again about the importance of sleep, but this is truly no joke. Your mother, teachers and doctor were all right when they told you that pulling an all-nighter would do more harm than good. Infinite studies have proven that sleep deprivation will wreck your memory, making all the time you spent studying a waste.

Use recall methods while studying

Practice tests for review have been shown to greatly increase learning. Outlining and rewriting notes can also help you to put information together. There are a ton of options such as flash cards, videos and associative memory techniques, such as imaging techniques or pneumonics. Recitation (out loud if possible) is a great long-term memory strategy. Also, the more interested you are in something, the easier it is to learn. Remember why you are taking the course in the first place and think about what it has to offer to your future.

Remember how close you are to the finish. Enjoy every second that you have with your friends and be thankful for the opportunity to go to such a great school. Finals will be over before you know it, and you will make it through. Most importantly, have a great summer. Good luck!



Friday, June 27, 2014


There was a farmer who sold a pound of butter to the baker. One day the baker decided to weigh the butter to see if he was getting a pound and he found that he was not. This angered him and he took the farmer to court. The judge asked the farmer if he was using any measure. The farmer replied, amour Honor, I am primitive. I don’t have a proper measure, but I do have a scale.” The judge asked, “Then how do you weigh the butter?” The farmer replied “Your Honor, long before the baker started buying butter from me, I have been buying a pound loaf of bread from him. Every day when the baker brings the bread, I put it on the scale and give him the same weight in butter. If anyone is to be blamed, it is the baker.”

What is the moral of the story?

” We get back in life what we give to others.”

Whenever you take an action, ask yourself this question: Am I giving fair value for the wages or money I hope to make? Honesty and dishonesty become a habit. Some people practice dishonesty and can lie with a straight face. Others lie so much that they don’t even know what the truth is anymore. But who are they deceiving? Themselves.


Friday, June 20, 2014

Real Leaders

001-fb-jpg 1. Leaders Battle Last
“The greatest victory is that which requires no battle.” – Sun Tzu

Leaders navigate through conflicts and trials as though no such thing ever took place. They have developed a keen foresight—seeing problems on the horizon and handling them well before they hit the shore and do any damage. They prefer the prevention rather than the cure.

If you see sparks setting off in your life, put them out before they turn into an inferno. It’s easy to let a crack turn into a canyon. Don’t just focus on where things are currently at, but where things may be heading. You may need to change your trajectory.

2. Leaders Speak Last
They allow others the freedom to express their opinion. They understand that happy employees are those given a voice, and feel part of the company. But leaders don’t just take everything on board, they assess and weigh up all contributions. Then, they speak last and tie everything together with their expertise.

Leaders know they can learn from anyone, but they excel in making the right decisions and choosing the best options. It is neither a dictatorship, nor is it a democracy. Good leadership is striking that perfect balance in between.

3. Leaders Celebrate Last
Because it’s not over till the fat lady sings. Leaders don’t take the pedal off the metal until they’ve well and truly crossed the finish line. The job is not done once it’s signed, sealed, and delivered; it’s done once it’s received, unpacked, and performed. Leaders see things through a panoramic lens.

Getting the product out there is one thing, making sure it performs with great satisfaction is another. You may make some sales in the short run, but you’ll never sustain a healthy career.

A sub-10 second sprint is pointless if you are trying to run a marathon.

4. Leaders Hire Last
The popular business mantra is to hire slow and fire fast. Leaders know that anyone can look like a superstar on paper. It’s easy to dazzle in a dress but not on the dance-floor. The leader says to the potential person:

“Don’t tell me, show me.”

Because quality will beat qualifications every single time.

It’s so easy to get excited during the previews. But you can’t get a refund once you’ve watched the whole thing—enough damage has already been done. Leaders let initial excitements die down before signing the dotted line. A great honeymoon doesn’t guarantee a great marriage.

5. Leaders Sweat Last
You’ve heard it said:

“Work smart, not hard.”

Leaders do both. But they work smart, before they work hard.

They push for productivity, and efficiency. They’re by no means shy about hard work, but they look for potent strategies before applying the elbow grease. They understand the 80/20 rule and create habits that kill ten birds with one stone. Leaders know how to maximise their strengths and outsource their weaknesses.

Are you spending more time labouring over your weaknesses rather than building on your strengths? Know when to be smart and delegate and when to be efficient and get your hands dirty.

6. Leaders Sleep Last
Before they nod off, leaders ask themselves:

“What did I do well today? And what do I need to improve upon?”

They know that mistakes are only failures when you don’t learn from them. And much learning comes from reflecting on the events of each day—to build on the positives and cut out the negatives.

As Earl Nightingale said:

“Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy goal or ideal.”

Remember that the progressive realisation comes from the progressive practice of your successful habits. Hindsight is always 20/20 and crucial for building the foresight and future for successful leadership. Reflect before you sleep.

7. Leaders Ask “How” Last
They ask the more important “Why” question first. Friedrich Nietzsche said:

“He who has a why can endure any how.”

Before a leader engages in building anything, they know that a successful endeavour will depend upon building a foundation of a deeper meaning and deeper “Why.” They know that difficulties and obstacles will certainly arise. At that point, though they possess all the how knowledge to finish a project, it is the why knowledge that brings it to completion.

We have enough information available to learn how to do just about anything. The reason anything gets accomplished is because there’s a powerful enough reason and purpose behind it. Consequently, the reason why you may not be getting anything accomplished is because you haven’t thought enough about why you would like to accomplish your goal.

What’s your why?

8. Leaders Get Off The Ship Last
It is an unspoken, but unbreakable rule—the captain is the last to leave a ship. A former P&O captain said:

“At sea, you have a great sense of responsibility for the people who are beneath you—you need to stay as long as anyone else remains.”

The most tragic ship wrecks are the ones where the captain is the first to abandon the crew.

A leader does not step into a role without accepting the significant responsibilities. They know that every decision they make affects a multitude of lives. If they steer the ship south, everyone on board is going south. If the ship sinks, they were the one behind the wheel.

Being the last to leave means honouring your responsibilities. Being a leader entails having followers. Peter Parker was told:

“With great power comes great responsibility.”

If you’re a leader that’s ignorant of your responsibilities, your ship is headed toward an iceberg.


Wednesday, June 11, 2014

Potatoes, Eggs, and Coffee Beans

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot.

He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?”

“Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she hastily replied.

“Look closer,” he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.

“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.

He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the boiling water.

However, each one reacted differently.

The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.

The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.

“Which are you,” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean? “

In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what happens within us.

Which one are you?